7 Habits of
Highly Successful Teens
Habit 5: Seek
First to Understand, and Then to Be Understood
Because most
people don’t listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that
many don’t feel understood. This habit will ensure your teen learns the most important
communication skill there is: active listening.
Why is
this habit the key to communication? It’s
because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone
wants to be respected and valued for who they are—a unique, one-of-a-kind,
never-to-be-cloned individual. People won’t expose their soft middles unless
they feel genuine love and understanding. Once they feel it, however, they will
tell you more than you may want to hear. People don’t care how much you know
until they know how much you care.
Listen
with your eyes, heart, and ears. 7 percent of communication is contained in the
words we use. The rest comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say
words, or the tone and feeling reflected in our voice (40 percent).
Most people
are eager to talk and had rather talk than listen. We have one mouth and two
ears. This means we should listen twice as much as we talk. We actually learn
more while listening rather than when we talk. Learn to listen and listen to
learn.
Listen,
really listen, for understanding.
Seek
First to Understand Then to Be Understood—LISTEN.
CHOOSE THE
RIGHT!!!
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